What's wrong with being CONFIDENT?
Madeleine Geach has a great job as Head of People & Culture with Hawksmoor, but her side project as a coach is where she can help people unearth their confidence. In our first (of many we hope) sessions with us at L.O.R., Madeleine dove into a topic that comes up a lot for us; CONFIDENCE. The sessions saw a group of women move in and out of breakout rooms discussing their own battles with their inner monologues and hopefully, they left feeling a bit more…confident.
Madeleine’s slides from the session are clickable below - give them a go on your own. You can also book in for a taster coaching session with Madeleine via the SERVICES section.
Here were a few notes I made during the session;
Overall we all struggle with confidence, and what we need to remember is you are not alone and your feelings are valid.
It’s ok to not be ok.
Embrace emotions. Crying is not bad.
Find what grounds you (for me it’s sleep and breathing exercises)
Find what makes you feel good (for me it’s good hair and red lipstick)
Ask for what you want but be ok if you don’t get it. Rejection is not bad and doesn’t make you a lesser person.
I personally found the STOP, START, CONTINUE part of the session really helpful. Alongside the visualization exercise. Feeling grounded in my breath, slowing down and not feeling panicked always makes me feel more in control.
I am going to STOP; overthinking, saying sorry, comparing myself to others, procrastinating out of fear of failure.
I am going to START; speaking kindly to myself, congratulate myself on my successes no matter how small or large they are, ask for feedback and take it constructively and not as an insult to me or my character.
I am going to CONTINUE; doing my hypnotherapy sessions via the Clementine app, making time for myself and saying no to projects or social occasions when I know I am wiped out.
Confidence is a mindset, and if we have a healthy mind we can be more confident. Confidence is also knowledge. It’s ok not to know everything, it’s ok to be wrong. I have always wanted to be the first to speak, the best at everything and when I wasn’t, that really knocked my confidence so much. Learning to be ok with what I am good at, and speaking more kindly to myself has really helped with my inner saboteur. Even body shaming, looking in the mirror and not seeing the body I think I should have has really brought me down before. Now I look in the mirror and I tell myself I am happy with who I see, why was I being so mean to this strong body I have been given! That might be an overshare, but I always think transparency with this community is key.
YOU ARE GREAT!